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N: Is There Such Thing?

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With the A2Z blog that I'm doing each week, we have reached the letter N. It begs the question: 


How nice is too nice? Maybe the better question would be, “Is there such a thing as too nice?” Well, yeah, if it’s disingenuous, but I don’t think sincerity can be too nice.
I don’t think I’m in the minority here, but I’ve been

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Author: Marji Laine

Marji is a homeschooling mom with teenage twins left in the nest. She spends her days transporting to and from volleyball, teaching writing classes at a local coop, and directing the children’s music program at her church. Raised in suburban Dallas, she got her first taste of writing through the stories of brilliant authors of their day, Mignon Eberhart and Phyllis A. Whitney, and through stage experience. After directing and acting in productions for decades, Marji started writing her own scripts. From that early beginning, she delved into creating scintillating suspense with a side of Texas sassy. She invites readers to unravel their inspiration, seeking a deeper knowledge of the Lord’s Great Mystery that invites us all.

23 thoughts on “N: Is There Such Thing?

  1. Blessings right back at you! And may your whole week be pain free and refreshing!

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  2. Marji, yes, fibro and Lyme can look a lot alike. So glad your friend eventually got the correct diagnoses because Lyme can actually be cured (though it can take a long time). My sister has chronic Lyme. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, a circulation disorder, a heart condition, and some other more minor things. I'm now convinced I have a genetic connective tissue disease called Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome which would explain the symptoms from all of those things, all just from one disease. I am working on seeing a specialist to get a diagnoses.Definitely agree with you that more awareness is awesome! Progress can be slow, but they are finding more and more out about fibro, EDS, and Lyme.Blessings on you!

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  3. Sparrow,No worries, I like talkers! And Fibromaylgia is nothing to blow off. (Am I correct that it is your disease? I think I remember you mentioning it in a different post.)I couldn't even begin to imagine what you deal with on a daily basis. One of my close friends suffered from it, she thought. It turns out that she had Lyme Disease and both of her daughters suffer from that as well. Still it acted the same as Fibro. removing her abilities to do even simple tasks and causing constant pain. I can tell in her eyes when the day is starting to go downhill.I'm just glad that more and more people are recognizing both as real diseases. Maybe that will lead to effective treatments and cures??? I hope your today is a refreshing one.

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  4. Barbara, I find that is true. It sometimes gets hard to be kind when you know your being taken advantage of. Sometimes, not all the time, the Spiritual fruit kicks in because God wants to teach me something about patience, love, or forgiveness. I don't like looking like a doormat, but I know the truth and the temporary situation won't change that.

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  5. Nice post! I've learned that being nice can lead to being walked all over. There is a fine line between nice and doormat. Still trying to find it!

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  6. I'm one of those people who pauses to let a car pull out of a driveway and congratulates the other team for good plays. Your story made me think of something kind of the opposite that happened when I was a figure skater. At skating competitions, technically we were each competing against each of the others. As a rule, everyone was really nice and cheered for skaters to do well. But I remember one time one of the girls said, "Oh, I hope she falls!" as her competition took the ice. Everyone around her was so shocked, she shut her mouth rather quickly. It was nice that that kind of attitude was rare.But, to ramble on a little bit about times when "niceness" can grate a little… It sometimes bothers me when people are trying so hard to be "nice" that they are flippant about something serious. To use a bit of a selfish example… So often I have people tell me they are sure I'll be well enough to do such and such eventually or surely I'll manage just fine if I were to have kids, or I'm too young to be sick, etc. My disease is genetic and isn't going to go away, so while it's good to be supported in my big dreams that are difficult but realistic, it doesn't really help to have people wave away my challenges and pretend they don't exist, just so they can say something happy or "nice" about something I wish I could do but will never be able to.People also try to be encouraging by telling me about how their friend was cured by just avoiding gluten or something like that. I've already tried pretty much everything and am very knowledgeable about my disease and most all the options, treatments, and diets out there. None of them help me much. I get that people are trying to be helpful, so I'm not upset, but it does get old sometimes.Whew, I'm talkative tonight!

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  7. That's so ironic, Shelley, because usually it's the other way around isn't it? But as I kept score at a volleyball tournament last weekend (Did you know that my precious redhead's team won??) I sat a the scorers' table with two very polite teenagers. (I know, right?)We had to constantly make sure that our scores were the same. I thought if I heard another "Yes ma'am" I was going to break my pencil! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

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  8. Too nice? Hmmm… Like others have said, if it's genuine then probably there isn't a "too" nice. On the other hand, I did know someone who was so…not necessarily nice, but overly polite that it could get a bit annoying sometimes. 🙂

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  9. There certainly is no shortage of nice from all of the comments! 🙂

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  10. Personally I don't think there can be a too nice. We need more of it. :)Diana

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  11. Thanks for stopping by Patty and Laury. I'd like to cap-off the story by claiming to follow it with a defensive karate course, but I can't. Lol! And so far, my face is still intact! Woohoo!

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  12. As long as it is genuine, nice is awesome! Funny how one of the nicest people can be threatened to get beat up, huh? Scary funny! Wowsa!

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  13. Genuine kindness is wonderful. It's the phony stuff that makes me say phooey. Good point to think about!! =]

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  14. Oh you're too sweet, David! And I know what you mean about the ultra-defensive drivers. Too much of a good thing is still too much!

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  15. Let's see – last time I encountered someone genuinely nice for no reason? Um, how about when I saw your sweet face at the top of this blog?I do stop to let people out of parking lots, etc, but it drives me up a wall when someone with the right of way at an intersection stops and waves others through. This just impedes the flow of all traffic.Anyway, a few more Marji Laines might make this a kinder world.

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  16. Rita and Rhonda, Love Max Lucado! I totally agree, and yes, I get annoyed with the butter-up kind of stuff. It feels oily (LOL) It almost always accompanies a personal agenda. Ick, I hate being manipulated.Seems to me like the motive might be a key to figuring out the difference between kindness and flattery. If there is a reason that someone is being kind – to a boss or someone of influence – then wariness of flattery is justified. If they will act the same way in an everyday encounter, then just being nice is probably a way of life.

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  17. I agree, false "nice" is yucky, but genuine kindness (niceness) is powerful! The kindness of the Lord leads us to repentance!

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  18. I relate nice with Kindness, which is a fruit of the Spirit. I agree with Rhonda, I prefer the genuine kind!Fun and thought provoking post! Love it!

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  19. It depends on if the nice is real or fake. Max Lucado called flattery (one way of being 'nice') fancy dishonesty. Wow! You can usually sense the genuine kind, and it births life. The other kind? Not so much. Good analysis of this topic. I like it.

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  20. Thanks for sharing, Maria! I've saved this comment in my smile folder! As far as James is concerned, I agree, I need to stay in tune with the Spirit. If I'm not listening, I'm in trouble!

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  21. Oh, my! I think we need more encouragers like you, Marji! Glad you had 3 helpers when it came to your softball incident. Had to smile though, as I read your final questions – "Does it bug you when the driver in front of you lets someone cut in, or turn out of a parking lot?" I have to answer with a resounding, "Guilty!" Especially when I'm in a hurry – which is often, since I tend to run late. Must put others ahead of self! Thanks for the reminder that kindness IS so important!Thanks for stopping by Life Lessons. Love your visual description of falling into the trap of sin. James has a way of helping us understand our sin nature and those things that tempt us, doesn't he?! Like you, I'm thankful that the Holy Spirit warns us. I just need to be tuned in so I can look for the way of escape He provides and take it! Have a very blessed week!*I finally got the award posted that you so graciously gave me! Thanks again!! 🙂

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  22. Oh THANKS, Brandi! I'm so flattered! Blessings <><

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  23. Hey, Marji, I just awarded you with the Liebster Blog Award but I see you already have it, lol! That just means we all think highly of your blog 🙂 Have a great evening!

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