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Resolving Troublesome Resolutions

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Last Friday, I started an article about the problems with New Year’s Resolutions. Today’s article deals with setting up resolutions that can work. Hopefully you can find a few ideas here. Oh and if you missed last Friday’s article, here’s the link

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All of these types of resolutions are dangerous because they threaten your confidence. They are poised for failure for various reasons and should be avoided. That’s what I hate about New Year’s Resolutions. They have to be made on Jan 1. You have to start right away. If you don’t, you’ve already failed.

That’s ridiculous! You should be making goals all year long, even daily and minute by minute. And, though I do believe in shooting for the stars, don’t make your aim so high that you’ll lose heart after missing the shot over and over. Making goals is valuable, imperative even. “Where there is a lack of vision, the people perish.” Proverbs 29:18. Here are a few suggestions in how to make them. Some of them may sound like semantics, but the way you word your goal makes a difference in your attitude about it.

  • I will spend at least five minutes reading scripture at least 80% of the days. (That only allows for 73 misses. A little over 1 day per week.) The beauty about doing it this way is that your resolution starts new every morning. Missing one day doesn’t spoil the entire goal. And for a person who isn’t used to regular Bible study or even Bible reading, just remembering to do it can be such a challenge. Just don’t eat up more than one day per week at the beginning of the year or you’ll be in hot water once you get to June.
  • For weight loss, make a plan. Pounds don’t just fall off. “I will give up flash carbs (sugar, white potatoes, and white flour products) for three months.” That’s a doable plan. Give up sodas, resolve to not eat after a certain hour of the day, promise to walk every morning. Those are actions that can be taken. And build in a don’t give up plan like the one I suggested for Bible reading, so if you fall off the wagon for a moment it doesn’t ruin the entire year.
  • The same goes with trying something. Mr. Mayagi in The Karate Kid said, “There is no try. You either do yes, or you do no.” He compared trying to walking down the middle of the road. If you don’t pick a side you’ll get squished. “I will attend a Yoga class for three weeks before I decide if I should stay in it or not.” Likewise with joining a health club. “I will do an exercise circuit three days a week for forty minutes.” If you’re bad at procrastinating, change that three days a week to Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, so you won’t get to Saturday and not worked out.
  • Make sure your resolutions only rely on you. If in the writing realm, then resolve to complete 3 manuscripts this year. If in publishing, then make your goal address having your manuscripts completely prepared for submission at the slightest opportunity. If you want a certain amount of sales (regardless of the occupation) let your resolution reflect what you are going to do to get there. You can still set your number – after all, that’s your evaluator – but make sure you have action items that you can actually do to help achieve that number. The actions are your true goal. Completing all of them in a stellar manner is a win, whether you hit the number or not!

The only other thing I have against New Year’s Resolutions is that folks get the idea that they have to start on Jan 1. “Oh, gee, it’s the third and I forgot to start. Guess I’ll have to wait until next year.” (Yes, I’ve done that one before!) Nothing says that New Year’s even has to be part of the Resolutions. By all means make them all year round! And don’t be afraid to call them resolutions instead of goals just because you don’t make them at the New Year. Resolution is a stronger word than goal. Use it. It means to take a stand, so be willing to go there! It will be worth the ride!

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Author: Marji Laine

Marji is a homeschooling mom with teenage twins left in the nest. She spends her days transporting to and from volleyball, teaching writing classes at a local coop, and directing the children’s music program at her church. Raised in suburban Dallas, she got her first taste of writing through the stories of brilliant authors of their day, Mignon Eberhart and Phyllis A. Whitney, and through stage experience. After directing and acting in productions for decades, Marji started writing her own scripts. From that early beginning, she delved into creating scintillating suspense with a side of Texas sassy. She invites readers to unravel their inspiration, seeking a deeper knowledge of the Lord’s Great Mystery that invites us all.

6 thoughts on “Resolving Troublesome Resolutions

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  3. Marji, thanks for the tips. It’s easy to set ourselves up for failure by overloading on goals. I’m really good at that. We need to learn to pace ourselves in every area of our lives. Happy New Year and God bless!

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    • Thank you Carole! I think it’s just our desire to fix the things we perceive as shortcomings in our own lives. We can be pretty good at giving grace to others, but aren’t so hot at granting it to ourselves.

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  4. Excellent suggestions on how to create possible goals, steps on the way to a bigger goal. I love the line about missing the first so having to wait until next New Year. LOL Yes, been there, done that. 🙂

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